My heart is broken. And when your heart is broken, no amount of fake smiles and motivational quotes will help. You just have to feel it, grieve the losses, let time help you to move through it, keep opening and releasing even when all you feel like doing is closing and retreating.
My heart is broken for so many reasons. The state of the planet, the amount of hate and fear that are permeating our culture and media, the dishonouring and disrespecting of the feminine that has heightened in these past few months. It’s broken for so many losses and so many hurts that have deeply wounded me, personally, corporately, globally.
I used to be able to work on top of all of that. Not have to feel it. Distract myself with busy-ness. Not have to acknowledge how deeply broken and wounded my heart has been. Irreparably.
Business is a terrible place to be when your heart is broken. Business can be devastatingly harsh, unkind, unemotional, aggressive, malicious.
Sometimes, I hate it. If I’m really telling the truth, a lot of the time.
It takes a lot out of me to be in business. I’m good at it, and I’m strong, fierce really, and at times I can appear impenetrable. I’m never afraid to make the tough decision and can do so with unemotional swiftness. But truthfully, I’m sensitive, I feel everything far too deeply, my empathy runs through every cell in my being, I trust people far too easily and leave my heart unprotected, naively at times.
Yet in order to go where I need to go, to fulfill my purpose, to execute on this mission I have undertaken, business is the only way through. I have to learn how to protect myself, how to be guarded, how to fight for my position, how to push back and hold my ground when attacked and undermined, how to be deeply wounded by people that I trust the most, pull the arrows out of my back, and keep going. How to keep my heart open and my truth honoured while having wolves after my jugular and demands and pressure that would crush the most seasoned of souls. To balance purpose and vision with execution and structure. To trust intuition. To fail, be tested, be pushed to the limit and find solid ground. To make tough decisions that make me highly unpopular and unliked, judged, criticized, blamed and attacked, but have to make them anyway.
And every step forward brings another level of challenges, far greater than the last. Just when I think I can relax…another freight train. Sometimes I don’t think I have what it takes….but only sometimes.
So why do it?
I have this insatiable desire, this compulsion, this obsession, this unwavering depth of commitment, to lead a purpose driven life. To be the fullest expression of myself. Unbounded and connected to my Source. I have no idea where it comes from, this tenacity of spirit that is unrivaled. But it is the only thing that keeps me going.
It’s selfish really.
Yes, as a company we are committed to creating sustainable businesses, pushing forward change-making projects that have impact and I am fiercely passionate about it. But that’s not why I do this work. I do this work for selfish reasons – reasons that are hard for me to put into words, they are beyond words.
I do it for my own commitment to the pursuit of something I can’t quite describe. Ascension, growth in consciousness, to be the fullest expression of myself, yes. But even those words all fall flat.
Why write such a deeply personal blog? Goodness knows it’s not for the fan mail. I’d never be this honest about the dark corners in my mind – my fears, my vulnerabilities, my amateur grammar – by choice. It’s painful for me to write this thing, but I do it because Spirit calls. I must. Who knows why.
I am relentless about it. Willing to do whatever it takes. Go wherever I need to go, do whatever I need to do. When I win and when I fail, my resolve is the same. None of that matters. It is a pursuit, a lifelong one, a connection to a higher consciousness. Winning and failing don’t matter there. Accolades or acknowledgement are nice, but they don’t mean anything. Whether I am judged or praised matters not. Nothing matters, but this pursuit, this connection. And every day it starts from 0. Every moment is a fresh start to move forward in this quest for consciousness – to bring the Light of Understanding, for myself, yes, and for others, I hope.
It leads me often to places I don’t want to go, to decisions I have to make that break my heart in two. To keep releasing attachment to anything. It is a life beyond attachments. It will bring me to my knees and then ask me to surrender further. It will open my heart to great depths of love and devotion and then ask me to let them go. It will confront me with my greatest fears again and again and ask me to befriend them. It will bring me to be betrayed and betrayed and betrayed and somehow find a way to forgive and keep trusting. It will wreck my broken heart again and again, until I learn to find strength in my vulnerability. It will keep my fallibility in my own view until I can live in my own forgiveness. Until I learn to be a walking, wounded, broken-hearted soul, exposed for the world to see, so full of humility and Grace that there is no other option than to surrender deeper into every moment, every situation and every opportunity.
One giant, life-long process of letting go. Of letting go of ego, of self, of attachment, of mistakes, of the way it “should” look, of what I had in mind……to make room for God.
Krystine McInnes is CEO and Project Director of Athena Farms and Grown Here Farms. Stewarding purpose-driven, change-making projects with a focus on Planet, People, Profit and a commitment to Sustainable Business models.